Monday, May 28, 2012

Kiçik Toy


The Kichick Toy (the small wedding)

Last week I went to what will surely be my one-and-only kichick toy, or little wedding.  Given the demographics of the people I know, my friends and associates, it’s not too likely I will be invited to another, let alone even know anyone else who will be celebrating a kickick toy.  You see, a ‘little wedding’ as it is known here is not at all about a couple marrying.  Instead, it is the celebration of a young boy’s coming of age…his ritual circumcision.  Sometime before the onset of adolescence, Azeri boys are honored with a party, celebration, and gifts, known as the kichick toy, the small wedding, in preparation for his circumcision.  It can involve a party in the home with family and friends, or a very large celebration in one of the special restaurants, known as ‘celebration or wedding palaces,’ designed to elaborately serve huge receptions for such occasions.  In honor of my host family’s son, Ibrahim, now eight years-old, a large reception, with at least two-hundred fifty family, friends, and colleagues and associates of the parents in attendance, was held for him last Sunday at a beautiful ‘wedding palace’ restaurant.
 Playing in the courtyard, while adults get ready
 Even the neighborhood geese sense something is up
 Arriving at the family home for the big event
 Big sister poses
 Ibrahim gets last minute attention to his attire

First of all, the family members gathered at the family home, and being considered one of the family, I arrived several hours before the actual celebration was to begin at the wedding palace.  There I met some of the relatives I already knew and met about fifty more!  Some, like the grandfather and great-uncles of Ibrahim, came from Moscow and Russia to be in attendance.   (With huge unemployment among males in the regions outside of Baku, many male family members work in Russia to support their families back home in Azerbaijan.)   The house and garden was bustling with relatives scurrying about to  get ready for the celebration…clothes were being pressed, last minute adjustments to hair-dos and make-up, and finally all the relatives were ready for the procession to the wedding palace.  But first some musicians arrived and in the patio area of the house, they struck up some familiar Azerbaijani music on traditional instruments, with sounds that are distinctively Middle Eastern.  Soon dozens of family members, including little Ibrahim, were dancing the traditional Azeri dances in the patio.  Then it was time to leave for the wedding palace.
 Musicians in the courtyard of the family home provide a little pre-function festivities for the family and relatives
 Warm-up dancing in the courtyard to typical Azeri music
 Ibrahim and his attendant lead the Azeri dancing
 
Everyone piled into various cars for the short ride to the wedding palace.  Ibrahim, of course, was in the lead car, together with his attendants—two friends and his nine year-old sister.  The car was decorated like a wedding car, with red and white tulle streamers and bows on it.  It was driven down the middle of the road, horn blaring, followed by my car and all the other cars with family and relatives, each also honking horns.  When we arrived at the wedding palace, we all went inside to find seats at tables still available, since all the other two hundred or so guests were sitting at tables waiting.  Once everyone was seated, just like at a marriage wedding, Ibrahim and his attendants made a grand entrance up through the center of the room to the specially decorated table on a small stage in front of the large reception hall, reserved especially for the one(s) being honored.  Opposite was the stage for the musicians, who were already playing (very loudly!) the typical Azerbaijani music.
 The wedding car
 Ibrahim wishes he could drive it himself
 The wedding palace
 Ibrahim and his attendants sit at special table on stage at front of the hall
 The musicians perform typical Azeri music, and inordinately loudly, so that at least one little girl and old woman at my table both had to stuff napkins in their ears to soften the volume of the music
 Proud family
Soon the many waiters came out carrying the first courses of the elaborate feast.  As with any wedding palace celebration, the meal always consists of “national dishes,” served in specific order.  To begin with, the national salads—Capital Salad and Mimosa Salad, which are variations of potato and cooked vegetable salad in mayonnaise dressing, similar to Russian Salad--along with condiments of pickles, olives, and pickled cabbage are on the table, as well as fresh tomatoes and cucumbers and plates of ‘greens’—green onions and herbs.  Soon other national dishes are brought out—roasted chicken or fish with fresh herbs of dill, mint, parsley and cilantro, followed by beef or mutton stew, and then of course the grilled mutton or beef kebabs.  But the main dish—the plov, or special rice pilaf with dried fruits—is saved for last, and elaborately and ceremoniously served…waiters in traditional costume carrying torches escort the ‘plov dancer,’ a male waiter carrying a platter of the plov in one hand while dancing to Azeri music, as he enters the hall.  Between the various courses served, different groups of people—mother’s relatives, father’s relatives, relatives from Russia, groups of colleagues and associates-- come to the front of the hall, say words of congratulations over the microphone, and dance in groups to the Azeri music.
 Ceremonial entrance of the national dish...the plov
 the plov dancer...
 carrying the platter of plov, set a-flame

This being a ‘wedding’ for a young boy, a special surprise was at hand when two clowns showed up to help encourage all the youngsters in attendance to dance, especially after the balloons fell from the ceiling, the bubble machine was turned on, and the confetti spewed over the dance floor.
 Dancing with the clowns

 Ibrahim on top of uncle's shoulders
 Meeting with guests who came all the way from Russia (and America!)
 Enjoying the dancing and the Azeri music



Throughout the entire festivities, Ibrahim’s mother and father roamed the hall as host and hostess—the father strolled up and down the rows of tables for male guests, and the mother the rows of tables for female guests.  As is typical, females sit at tables on one side of the hall (with bottles of juice and water) and males on the other side (with bottles of wine and vodka).

At the very end the fancy ‘wedding’ cake is cut, and after about four or more hours of celebrating, the family goes home.  Many others leave earlier.  And the actually *event* being celebrated—the circumcision of the young boy—well, that is reserved for later in the week, in the privacy of the family home and attended to by a specially trained person!
 Azeri dancing with family members in the courtyard of the family home

Friday, May 18, 2012

Business Dealings...and many photos

Business Dealings...and many photos...

Living on my own has introduced me to a few more new things about doing business in Azerbaijan.  Every apartment dwelling and home has an electric meter box, with a small padlock.  To ensure that you always have electricity hooked up to your place, you must load a credit/debit-type card with money, unlock your meter box, and stick the card into a special slot, thereby electronically adding funds to the account associated with your meter box.  This sounds simple and easy, until you actually try to load the money onto the card.

First, you must go to the post office, where everyone gathers and crowds around, trying to get money put onto their cards, too.  There is no such thing as standing in line or in a queue for anything in Azerbaijan, and so it is also at the post office.  You just try to work your way eventually to the front in order to reach the counter, where you hand the clerk your money and your card.  On a very old, slow dot-matrix printer, she prints out how much money you paid, and hands you back your card and the receipt.  Then you go to another part of the post office and crowd around yet another counter, where you can eventually hand this second clerk your card and your receipt; he then records everything (by hand) and lays your card on a small indicator machine, which records onto the magnetic strip how much you paid, and loads that amount onto your card.  Then you can take your card home and insert it into your meter box.  It is not a very expeditious system, and I understand that in Baku there are now some kiosks in market stores, where you can do this automatically.  Interestingly, this seems to be the main function and purpose of the post office.  No one here has a mail box, there is no home delivery, and in fact people in general do not send mail or use the post office for anything other than paying utility bills. All the mail I receive here I pick up myself from the post office; I stop in every few days, just to see if I have any, and have gotten to know the man in charge of keeping our mail until we call for it—he wants me to take him to America when I leave!  Many Azeris don’t really even know their own addresses or how to write it, because it is unnecessary to know—you never record it anywhere, because mail is not used for communication (cells phones are), nor for paying bills. Gas bills, too, are paid at a bank or post office.  The utility bills, other than electric, are stuck on your door, so you know what to pay and when.  Everything else, like these bills, is paid for in cash.  There are some places in Baku that accept credit and debit cards, but in Mingachevir, as in all other regions of Azerbaijan, this is basically a pay-in-cash-only society.  Crowding around in the post office or bank to pay utilities, though by our standards time-consuming, suits the way of doing things here—never in a rush, always taking time to chat with neighbors and friends—so none of this is seen as a nuisance, but simply the way things are done!  Besides with very high unemployment, most men spend their days sitting with friends in the Cayxana (tea houses) all  over town…chatting away, playing nard, taking it easy—life in a rush or on a set time-table is not part of how business is conducted here.

Several weeks ago, I had the honor of interviewing finalists in Baku for the SUSI program for Azerbaijani university students to spend six weeks in America, to learn about democracy, civic engagement, leadership, social responsibility.   Supported by the U.S. State Department, this is a wonderful opportunity for Azeri young people to learn first-hand the kinds of things necessary for them to help their developing country continue to move forward.  I was thoroughly impressed with their enthusiasm and the command of English of most of the applicants.  I wish them all well.  Again I marveled at the sights in the center of Baku and its old walled Icheri Sheher (Old Town); I enjoyed another concert at the Filharmonia and an ice-cream sundae at McDonald’s—just like home.  Then it was time to climb back onto a crowded, worn, stuffy and hot marshrutka for the bumpy ride back to the ‘real’  Azerbaijan, the Azerbaijan where Peace Corps works.  But it was good to be back home in Mingachevir and the job at hand.  I’ve held some more well-received training sessions and traveled with my friend Gulnaz to Sheki to visit a colleague—productive times=good times.
 Conducting a Training Seminar
 Scenes from Beautiful Baku


 Around the stone-wall fortifications...there used to be a double-moat, one filled with oil, which could then be set a-fire to turn back invaders--I bet it worked!


 The Filharmonia...concert hall


 The opera and ballet theatre








Literature museum
 Rural life...and rural road 'jams'

 Scenes from Spectacular Sheki...the old caravansarai--the hotel/stopping place for Silk Road caravaners.


 Sheki halvasi--their special baklava



 On the grounds of the old caravansarai
 Their tea-house
 Typical road jams

Back home at my apartment building, my apt. is top floor center with the wood-framed balcony, note pile of newly sheared sheep wool drying in the sun in front of the building stair-well entrance